The Tools by Barry Michels & Phil Stutz

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Jan 18, 2023

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“He’s Jonah Hill’s psychotherapist. I’m 70 years old. I was a high school teacher. I was in public relations and advertising. I was a creative director. I was a swim coach. I was also a swim athlete. Aspects of therapy has brought to bear value in everything I’ve ever done. Any friend can be a better friend by simply paying attention to some of the ideas and concepts in therapy, being willing to learn about different philosophies. Getting past the trigger words and when you’ve perceived to have been wronged by someone. When you’ve perceived to be disrespected or put down. You have a choice. You can get stuck in the past and argue life isn’t fair. You can get stuck in what he terms the “maze” which is a combination of your past and your preconceptions, the way you that you’ve traditionally reacted to bad situations, or you can realize it’s a choice.

I don’t necessarily agree with what he calls “active love” which is generating love throughout the universe. It’s bit too flower power for my generation and I kind of rejected it, but the point is what I’m realizing is that when you’re wronged you always have a choice, you can choose to enter the maze or you can choose to move on. And so I think the best thing that a friend can do for another friend is help them do just that, to move on.”